Feeling your way to food freedom
It has nothing to do with controling, and everything to do with feeling.
Have you done more diets than you can count and still can’t shake off that stress-eating & binge-eating habit, and reach lasting food freedom?
Read on, and get ready for a loving ‘time to shape up’ moment.
I am sure that when you wake up, you tell yourself that it will be a great day! You will eat well, follow your plan, and stay busy so as not to be tempted by those sugary/fatty/salty foods.
However, as the day goes by, you feel that you are losing more and more the control you have on your food habits.
You try to shake it off, have a coffee, chew some gum, drink water and more water… Telling yourself you have to push through the cravings, that it will pass.
But at one point, something happens.
You feel tired, anxious, bored, depressed…and the craving starts creeping up more and more…like a tidal wave…despite the hydration, mantras and walks you are doing.
You try and try to hold it off…but at one point, you can’t and the decision is done.
You decide that you NEED that food RIGHT NOW.
You turn into the craving, that might lead to a binge eating episode, but you feel this sense of calm when you take that first bite, as if you can finally breathe and relax.
However, that moment passes quite quickly, and is followed by feeling guilty, ashamed, a fraud, weak.
Now, I want you to read this and know that I totally understand what you are going through (I struggled with this for many years), and I want you to take in what I am about to say.
𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬-𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐞-𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐍𝐎𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫, 𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐨𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞.
𝐈𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐘𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐡𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐜𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐞𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐦 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐨𝐫 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡.
You are not binge eating because you feel like it. You are because you NEED it to calm an inner pain or emotion you haven’t healed.
Eating is a survival coping mechanism that you might have created at one point in your life to survive emotions that were brought forward from trauma, abuse, bullying, homelessness, abandonment (just to name a few).
And trying to REMOVE THESE FOODS AND THE STRESS-EATING is not the way to go because you have an inner pain that this habit is helping you deal with and still move on with your day.
So, you might be asking, what is the first step?
The first step is to recognize that your habits are coping mechanisms for something deeply rooted in you.
And the second step?
It is understanding that you need to feel this emotion you are trying to escape from so that you can HEAL.
And this is where magic and changes happens…the healing breaks that cycle (and not the other way around).
Once you are aware of the feeling and move through it (not avoiding or blocking or escaping), you are no longer scared of that emotion….and you won’t need the food, the drug, the alcohol, that ‘thing’ anymore to use as a band-aid or an avoidance habit.
It is time to Feel2Heal.
This is your solution.
Dina Merhbi, your transformational leading health expert.